Over dinner last night, hubby leaned in from across the table and said to me: “Enough with the superficial … what’s really going on with you?”
I was immediately offended. I was put off by this question.
Don’t get me wrong… most women would love to have their hubby’s ask “Honey, tell me what’s going on with you.” But that’s not really how it came across, AND I had just been revelling in the fact that we had spent the last 36 hours together, on our road trip from Southern California to Northern Oregon, finally filling him in on the parts of my life that I’d been too busy to relay.
From my “artsy fartsy” happenings and recent exciting developments to updates on our friends to dreaming about our future together… I went to bed the night before and awoke being super thankful that he and I had this opportunity to reconnect, hold hands a little longer than usual, laugh with each other a little more, learn new things together… and he viewed THAT as superficial? NOW he wants to talk about the important stuff?!
What about me sharing about all those important things before?!
I have to admit, I was a little hurt…
But the more he explained what he meant, the more I listened to hear what he was actually looking for… the more I heard his heart the more I understand what he was talking about.
Don’t worry, I won’t be over-sharing here. I’m not going to be sharing with random strangers what our heartfelt conversation was about… I will spare you the details, and you can let your imagination run wild.
But, I WILL (however) continue my mantra of being an “open book” with my life. I have a few simple views on life… one of them is that we all learn from our mistakes and the mistakes of those around us. We’d be willing to share with you what some of our mistakes are, but in a more appropriate setting (not here on this blog).
So I share our “moment” to simply share what most of you already know… I LOVE MY HUSBAND! I could shout it from the rooftops. No, he’s not perfect. But neither am I. He makes me laugh, to the point of tears sometimes. And sometimes he just drives me to tears. But I love him to pieces, we are great for each other and I rest in the fact that God knew what He was doing when He brought us together.
We have some practical steps in front of us to move in the right direction. And we will do so… it just took some time to listen to what he was wishing for and to decipher what that practically meant.
It’ll take some work… but that’s what marriage is about.
On a side note… We’re currently on vacation. So I have some extra time on my hands.
Two posts, two days in a row is a little out of the ordinary for me. Hubby is on a bike ride and I’m loving the extra time to dive into writing… no, this post isn’t about how we will walk hand in hand for every minute of the day, listening to birds chirping while we stare into each others’ eyes. We still have our own interests, goals, etc… but we will work on being more intentional in our time together. We will honor each other together and on our own.